Make It Habit To Be Happy
Taking responsibility for what you wish to be isn’t a bad thing but it means you are in control and you can decide what kind of result you want to see.
When you take responsibility means that you have the ability to respond to any event in a way that will positively impact you.
But did you know that your happiness is your responsibility too?
It means you are in control of your own happiness.
And you have the power to decide either to be happy or not to be.
But my intention is not to encourage you to be unhappy but to be happy and make it a habit each and every single day.
Condition your thoughts with these powerful thoughts and make it a habit to be happy :)
First and foremost, take 100% responsibility of who you are
I love the idea behind taking responsibility. It means you are able and you are in control of who you are.
You are like a driver, you decide where to direct your car — right path or the wrong one.
Taking responsibility for your own happiness requires you to direct your emotions for the way you feel and the way you respond.
For the way how people treat you and act towards you or putting different perspectives about who you are.
Tell everyone you know that, “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.”
And be that what you declare to be.
Doing that means you are in control and you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then you will be happy.
Learn to appreciate what you have at the moment
Many of us focus on what is missing mostly in our lives.
In reality, we don’t know to appreciate what we have in the moment.
We always have these two options,
1. Focusing on the negative side of the problems,
Or,
2. Focusing on what is missing in our lives.
We totally forget about the art of appreciation hence, unhappiness emotions inside our mind and body give birth to each other.
Keep this in mind
“If you don’t know to appreciate what you have in your life right now — then you don’t need anything.” — Wayne Dyer
You have to be be grateful and thankful for each and everything — for good and bad in your life.
Instead of ceasing, blaming, criticizing or judging — just bless the moment. No negativity can survive in a happy mind.
Get rid of over-thinking, over-analyzing, and over-expecting
Overthinking, over analyzing and over expecting is a mind hell — when in doubt just check out.
When you think a lot, analyze the problem from east to west, right to left — you will enter into the mind hell.
When you expect a lot from someone and you get nothing in return — you will enter into the mind hell.
You have to understand that you only have control for the way you feel, react or respond to people, but you do not have any control for the way how people treat, react or act towards you.
Have a deeper understanding of the things that you have an influence on them — take control over and those you don’t have influence on them — leave them as they are.
You don’t have an influence on how the traffic jam should be, how the weather should be, how people should react or treat you — so stop complaining and understand the science behind your mind.
When you face a problem, focus on what should be done next — focus on the solution
Understand this, for every minute or second you are giving your attention to the current problem — the more you add that.
We are living in the attraction universe — it only knows YES, so you will always get that which you give your focus and attention.
Whether you focus on the problem and say I don’t want that — it’s an assurance that you will get it, unless you choose not to focus.
Focusing on the solution you are giving your mind attention to focus on what is needed and you will be happy to see the improved solutions rather than chaos.
Learn to value the difference of others
If you are not happy because of someone — you have a serious problem, and this is for you.
First and foremost, you will never get what you want by focusing on what you do not want.
The reasons why you are not happy because of someone is because,
You let someone else’s behaviors immobilize you,
Or,
You thought someone lacks something, so you want them to behave just like the way you are — the way you want them to be.
But in reality, if you lack something to someone, it’s not the person who miss what you are looking for but it is you who put your attention to what is missed.
And getting back to the opening sentence you will never get what you want by focusing on what you do not want and what is missed.
Other way, you must be that which you desire to get.
Fulfill Yourself First
Sometimes we cause ourselves to be unhappy by fulfilling others needs and forget about ourselves.
We want to see others happy but we forget to make ourselves happy.
You have to put yourself first. Learn to satisfy your natural being before starting satisfying others — you will never satisfy anyone, you can only do it to yourself.
From today tell others that,
“What’s in the cup, it is for me and what’s run out of my cup, it is for you” — Iyanla
Why?
This is so because, when you give others into the degree that you sacrifice yourself, you make the other person a thief. — ACIM
A thief of your own happiness — you become their attachment.
Stop complaining, justifying, anger, blaming and feeling guilty.
Enjoy this good passage from “Abraham Teachings by Esther Hicks”
“Complaining about anything holds you in the place of refusing to receive the things you’ve been asking for.
Justifying about anything holds you in the place of refusing to let in the very things that you’ve been asking for.
Blaming someone holds you in the place of refusing to let in the things that you’ve been asking for.
Feeling guilty, feeling angry, it doesn’t matter what you call it; it is refusal and not a conscious one.
Anger, resentment, guilt — make you sick. Fill your mind with an attitude of goodwill, forgiveness, faith, love and the spirit of imperturbability.”
Then you will feel good and be happy.
And the last thing, do you want to make others happy?
To make others happy you have to make yourself happy first.
As long as you are part of the problem — you are the problem. You will only be the solution if you are not part of the problem.
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