The Science of Self-Confidence
Being confident is a state of mind.
Feeling like you are not confident it is a state of mind too. There is nothing but an illusion and your mind knows the dark secret behind that.
We always find ourselves fearing different situations, events or people, but if we decide to not do that then fear will disappear. It’s just like watching yourself in the broken mirror and say to yourself “Today I look ugly” even though you are the same person or wearing the same clothes for the second time.
So what does that condition coming from? It is from your thinking the more you start talking to yourself in a negative way your mind will support you on that either way if it is positive talk your mind will do the same. To be confident is to train your mind and prove to yourself that you are confident, start by creating that from your inner-thinking and thoughts because how you think always creates your own reality.
Practice these little tips, to master your self-confidence all the time and stay confident wherever you are.
Do mirror work
Develop a habit of talking to yourself through the mirror, get up and take yourself to the mirror, step a little closer and tell yourself positive narratives and positive affirmations based on the person you want to become, every morning and the night before sleeping.
Positive affirmation
Practice positive affirmation every day and make that your habit. Listen or write a bunch of them regarding what you want and let them penetrate in your mind by using the I am version. For instance, you may say “I am confident and I talk with confidence” say it 10 times or longer for 5 minutes, this makes your mind believes that is true as the work of your subconscious mind.
Self-Talk
Learn to monitor how you talk to yourself, through your words, actions and thoughts. Don’t put yourself down, that you cannot do anything or someone knows better more than you, stop that, it’s a self-violence. We all learn every single day and the one who is doing well today they have done it 100 days before but you are on the first day. Believe you can, accept yourself and develop the fact that you are enough, all you can do is all you can do and always there is a starting point for anything.
Talk to one person
If you are in the public place or you suppose to give a talk with the audience in public, see yourself as the master of that event and you are just talking to one person. Choose someone who is friendly to you, with a calm or smiling face, then focus on that person or you may decide to concentrate on one of your friends who is always there supporting you when he/she is part of the audience.
Think positive; we love thinking in the opposite (negative) way, but in developing self-confident then you don’t need to think that way instead allow positivity to surround your thinking toward yourself and other people too. Say to yourself that “Everyone is loving and I am lovable, I like myself and others like me too”
Act
Action beat fear, this is already proven, but also I did that too and it worked. The more you act the more you learn and the more you learn the more you develop your self-confidence for the thing that you are good at. ACT! ACT! ACT! And you will find yourself one day you don’t fear anything, and you will continue to do things continuously.
Do what feels right for you
If you do something that makes you feel bad then “you are the thief of your own self-confidence.” If you do something that makes you feel bad you will develop self-doubts and fear but if you are doing what makes you feel right then you are developing a good foundation toward your self-confidence.
Socialize
Talk to different people who seem anonymous to you or strangers. When you got a chance to attend an event or meeting then talk to people to let them know what you are doing or what are your big dreams. Talk to them and smile, but communicate with them with an intention.
Lastly, I want to remind you of one thing; “There is nothing to fear in this world but fear itself”. What we always fear it’s just an illusion nothing really exists as Zig Ziglar once said, “Fear is False Evidence Appearing Real” and nothing else, so if someone asks, Are You Confident? Don’t just say, yes sure or yes I am, it’s a wrong answer just say “I am Confident” then see how powerful it is and how your mind will respond to that short sentence. “I AM CONFIDENT”
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