That was then — this is now :)

5 min readJan 13, 2024

We cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning — as, for what was great in the morning will be little in the evening and what in the morning was true in the evening would have become a lie. — Dr. Wayne Dyer

Dear friend,

If you don’t know.

The only thing that causes so much pain and so much suffering in your life is your inability to not be willing to learn from life and not be willing enough to let in that which you have asked from life.

Well, I know it’s a little bit confusing but you will understand.

Keep reading.

To learn from what happened to you and know for sure that there are no accidents in this Universe but things always do happen for a reason and for every end there’s a new beginning and for every new beginning — more has yet to come.

To understand that whatever things were, we just need to know that — that was then and this is now and if we truly need our lives to grow and change to the perfection of that which we truly are — we only need to appreciate what happened and embrace that which we are living now; that which we are becoming.

As I shared in one of my articles life isn’t here to punish us but to guide us to our deepest desires — what we have asked from life, trust me that’s more than true to itself.

It’s the way that we understand life and how things are in this world full of polarities— that can truly make or break us.

But as an uplifter and as a person who understands the laws of life, I don’t want to see you suffer and feel like your life is here to punish you… yet I want you to deepen your understanding of life so that you can see things differently.

Let’s begin here

Do you feel like life is punishing you?

Feel like things aren't working out as to how you want them to be?

Feel like things are just against you and you just can’t stand them?

Dear friend, it doesn’t matter what happened or what’s happening now in your life — good or bad or for whatever you have labeled it — get to know that life is always here to guide you.

And where?

To that which you want.

Curious how?

Well.

Long ago, you asked a lot from life — probably you have forgotten it as they taught you that you ask with your words by praying and crying to the God in the sky.

But what you don’t know is that — asking from life isn’t necessarily for you to plead a need-greedy case: as long as you are alive — you don’t stop asking.

When people don’t like you – you wish them to be nicer to you.
When you don’t have money – you wish to have more of it.
When you find something that you love – you wish to own it.

That is how you automatically ask from life.

Either you are aware of it or not.

As long as you don’t know what you don’t want on the other side you always know what you want — so your wants are your prayers.

Your wants are your desires.

These are the things that you always wish to have. The things that you ask from life — the things that you ask from God.

So once those desires (might be questions, prayers, or wishes) arise from your curiosity that is what gives your life a full map to take you where you want to be.

Do you remember when you were younger (or just older but long ago) and you just had a lot of desires and you wished things to be so different; then it looked like a hectic situation but now you have all and looking back – you are so glad that things were just like that.

That you showed up for yourself simply because no one was there for you.

That you become stronger and more compassionate because you understand yourself and others around you.

That you become independent simply because the world taught you that being dependent is only as being a slave.

That you established your own business simply because no one can boss you around

That you have your own space and no one can tell you what to do or what to not do.

That you met the love of your life and got married after that heartbroken breakup.

That you traveled the world simply because they told you it can’t be done.

That you become more handsome and sexy simply because they used to call you ugly.

See. That’s how life works.

Things are always in perfect proximity.

If it wasn't for what happened to you that which you are living now would never matter.

It’s just for you to adjust your understanding and be aware of the things that you have asked and prepare to live them. Because life’s always preparing you for that which you have asked for.

To every situation and every setback in your life, it’s a way for you to unfold and expend yourself toa dipper dimension of that which you truly are.

I love it when Steve Jobs put it this way

“Life’s understood backwards.”

What a clever observation.

Precisely as an author: it’s my willingness to learn from life that always brings me peace and joy – so does the unwillingness of not being willing to learn always brings pain and suffering.

Well. That’s how life works dear friend.

I learned that long ago.

That… until you can realize that — that was then and this is now.

..then will the new doors be open for you :)